Making assumptions
I was having coffee with Bronte yesteday in Gloria Jeans on Rundle St. I was telling him about the conflicts that we had in the past few days. He said something that made me realise why didn't my past relationship work.
The good thing about the conflicts in the past few days is that we were able to talk things out properly and both parties were about to understand each other. Bronte agreed with me, that communication is really important in a relationship. He also told me that the thing that contributes to poor communication is making assumptions.
Making assumptions.. I wonder for a moment. Then he explained to me. He gave me a scenario. If one of you looked upset, you should try to understand by asking yourself, "is she okay?", "maybe she is tired?", "maybe something bad just happened?", then you asked if she is okay; rather than assuming that she is not happy with you, because this makes you upset as well, and it sets up a chain reaction.
Those words struck my mind, and I suddenly realise the biggest problem I had in the past. Making assumptions. It's a real killer man..
It's really important that we always give support to each other. Even when both of us are feeling sad at the same time, it is important to talk things out nicely and try to sort everything out. That's how a relationship should be. It should be based on each other's support, trust and understanding.
It's a learning process.. and I am learning
The good thing about the conflicts in the past few days is that we were able to talk things out properly and both parties were about to understand each other. Bronte agreed with me, that communication is really important in a relationship. He also told me that the thing that contributes to poor communication is making assumptions.
Making assumptions.. I wonder for a moment. Then he explained to me. He gave me a scenario. If one of you looked upset, you should try to understand by asking yourself, "is she okay?", "maybe she is tired?", "maybe something bad just happened?", then you asked if she is okay; rather than assuming that she is not happy with you, because this makes you upset as well, and it sets up a chain reaction.
Those words struck my mind, and I suddenly realise the biggest problem I had in the past. Making assumptions. It's a real killer man..
It's really important that we always give support to each other. Even when both of us are feeling sad at the same time, it is important to talk things out nicely and try to sort everything out. That's how a relationship should be. It should be based on each other's support, trust and understanding.
It's a learning process.. and I am learning
